What some of the real stats tell us. — One of the questions I was most asked as my kid started navigating gender, even among family, was: What if they change their mind? Well, … let’s talk about that. First, you have to understand that nothing is happening in terms of transition that can’t be reversed until a child…

Support people who are doing good work. — I approach almost every issue I care about in multiple ways, and sometimes one of the best ways I can show support is to donate to people doing the work, people who, most often, have been doing the work for a long time. Legal Aid + Justice: People Getting People Help ACLU: Chase Strangio, Deputy Director for Transgender…

What do people mean when they talk about gatekeeping health care? — There is some nuance around gatekeeping gender-affirming care, at least for me. …

Do you have resources to add to this list? Let’s talk. To be the parent my trans kid needed, I had to get updated and learn — fast — without putting that burden on my son. My approach was to follow trans people on Twitter (though I listened and did…

Well, how do you know you’re cis? — I think the simplest way I was ever asked to think about this question is by reading the question asked after the headline: How do you know you’re cis? Sitting with that, lots of things came up for me: “I just know,” “normal,” natural.” Simply put, the same is true…

What cis allies need to know about HRT for trans kids. — Before we start on the specifics, it’s important to note that, like puberty blockers, no trans kid and their family are walking into a provider’s office, saying they’re trans and need hormone replacement therapy, and walking out with a prescription. Additionally, not all trans and non-binary kids choose HRT. As…

What you need to know about trans kids and puberty blockers. — The most common falsity that exists around trans kids and puberty blockers — or gender-affirming care in general — is that this care happens quickly. Nothing about gender-affirming care is fast. Here is a fairly common timeline based on the experience I had with my trans son. 1. My child…

It’s more complex than the binary suggests — For many people, high school is where their study of human biology ends. Typically, you learn the basics around development and humans are described as falling within two primary categories: male and female. When you have a trans kid, though, one of the first things you understand is the binary…

Questions? Want to contribute content or a personal story to Complicit|Accomplice? Let’s talk. In a national environment that is increasingly hostile to trans people, and trans kids especially, my trans son and I wanted to give cis allies a (hopefully) easy-to-use resource to help them both better understand some of…