What some of the real stats tell us. — One of the questions I was most asked as my kid started navigating gender, even among family, was: What if they change their mind? Well, … let’s talk about that. First, you have to understand that nothing is happening in terms of transition that can’t be reversed until a child…

Support people who are doing good work. — I approach almost every issue I care about in multiple ways, and sometimes one of the best ways I can show support is to donate to people doing the work, people who, most often, have been doing the work for a long time. Legal Aid + Justice: People Getting People Help ACLU: Chase Strangio, Deputy Director for Transgender…

What do people mean when they talk about gatekeeping health care? — There is some nuance around gatekeeping gender-affirming care, at least for me. But, as the years go by with my kid and as my kid gets older, I appreciate the conversations I’ve had around this topic with trans people, as well as some of the insights I’ve been privy to…

Do you have resources to add to this list? Let’s talk. To be the parent my trans kid needed, I had to get updated and learn — fast — without putting that burden on my son. My approach was to follow trans people on Twitter (though I listened and did…

Well, how do you know you’re cis? — I think the simplest way I was ever asked to think about this question is by reading the question asked after the headline: How do you know you’re cis? Sitting with that, lots of things came up for me: “I just know,” “normal,” natural.” Simply put, the same is true…

What cis allies need to know about HRT for trans kids. — Before we start on the specifics, it’s important to note that, like puberty blockers, no trans kid and their family are walking into a provider’s office, saying they’re trans and need hormone replacement therapy, and walking out with a prescription. Additionally, not all trans and non-binary kids choose HRT. As…

What you need to know about trans kids and puberty blockers. — The most common falsity that exists around trans kids and puberty blockers — or gender-affirming care in general — is that this care happens quickly. Nothing about gender-affirming care is fast. Here is a fairly common timeline based on the experience I had with my trans son. 1. My child…

It’s more complex than the binary suggests — For many people, high school is where their study of human biology ends. Typically, you learn the basics around development and humans are described as falling within two primary categories: male and female. When you have a trans kid, though, one of the first things you understand is the binary…

Questions? Want to contribute content or a personal story to Complicit|Accomplice? Let’s talk. In a national environment that is increasingly hostile to trans people, and trans kids especially, my trans son and I wanted to give cis allies a (hopefully) easy-to-use resource to help them both better understand some of…